Try: How long have you had difficulty with concentration do you have any other symptoms do you have any difficulties with sleeping do you have any medical problems did anything such as an injury or illness precede the symptoms what medications are you taking are you taking any new medications do you drink any alcohol are you using any recreational drugs

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Categories: Emotional Psychological, Medical Physical

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References: Www localhealth com

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Try: Suggest that cr have a family financial meeting with his her adult children grandchildren suggest that cr explain to them the costs involved in keeping them ranging from food electricity gas maintenance of the home clothing cooking services cleaning to providing a rent-free room if cr has been offering these things free-of-charge it may be that cr’s kids grandkids just don’t see the harsh reality of the costs involved encourage cr to ask for rent contributions suggest that cr make a family agreement that everyone living in the home is responsible for its upkeep and that includes financial upkeep as well as regular cleaning and maintenance suggest that cr set a weekly rent that covers approximately 30 of the adult children grandchildren’s pay to get them to understand what it costs and how it feels to have to depart with a set amount of pay just to have a roof over your head encourage cr to put all of this down in writing and draw up a budget if they are a full-time student are doing well in their classes and are actually working towards a degree not just taking random classes suggest that cr reconsider charging them rent they are trying to do something with their lives and there is no need to make it more difficult for them encourage cr to ask for all-family household duties for example you might suggest that cr allocate cleaning gardening shopping pet feeding mending repair and general chores to every family member able to perform tasks it is probably also a good idea that cr includes cooking at least two meals a week as part of the deal suggest that cr write all of this up as a weekly schedule and pin it up where everyone can see it encourage cr to make it clear that getting out of a task means negotiating with another family member rather than just not doing it remind cr to expect some resistance and encourage him her to respond with good hard facts for example if cr’s adult children grandchildren have been living it easy they might complain suggest that cr show them how much average rents are in the area show them the grocery bills for an average shop the electricity costs for an average home and the costs of things such as fuel mortgage repayments and rates their awareness will soon increase and even if they still feel resentful they will realize that their situation is a good one encourage cr to express his her gratitude to his her adult children grandchildren when they do chip in financially or help with household duties this helps lessen the tension for everyone involved suggest that cr try to avoid the situation by kicking his her children out the day after graduation suggest that cr put the rental money aside in a special savings account suggest that cr use this for a rainy day a vacation or even to help his her adult children grandchildren later on with education or rough patches in their lives suggest that cr try to share transportation where possible and encourage use of public transport and bikes by all of the family if cr can keep down the level of cars needed everyone benefits with less fuel costs less maintenance costs and healthier walking or riding if cr has an adult child grandchild who does live out of the house suggest that cr ask that child grandchild to come home and do the explaining to the sibling who is leeching off of cr the sibling who has a job bills and expenses will not feel guilty or have a problem telling them how it is in the real world and they also won’t have a problem smacking them upside the head when they complain

Materials: Pen paper evidence of costs from bills newspaper rental rates internet examples of costs of living etc

Categories: Sage, Topic, Emotional Psychological, Financial, Personal

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References: leaving the nest advice on helping adult children move out of the house by lisette hilton 2007 available at www wikihow com

Keywords: Financial dependence home interactions moochers money budgeting family relatives adult children adult grandchildren

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Try: Encourage cr to assign his her friend relative a fair share in advance for example if cr is planning a road trip or dinner party encourage him her to sketch out who will bring what suggest that cr make a list and ask his her friend relative what he or she will bring if they complain about their financial situation suggest that cr empathize and ask them to bring one of the less expensive items or suggest that they cook something which is always cheaper but at least it requires effort once moochers see their names on a list it won’t be as easy to skimp suggest that cr make sure that whatever their friend relative is responsible for bringing they’re the only ones responsible for it so that if they don’t it’ll be noticeable to everyone involved this will also work if cr has a sibling or friend who doesn’t chip in for a community gift for a parent other siblings etc yet still wants to sign his her name on the card suggest that cr mention that it it’s his her friend relative’s turn to treat this is where it starts to get a little more confrontational if cr’s friend relative turns cr down somehow or seems to blow the question off encourage cr to threaten to cancel the event and mean it for example cr could say something like since i drove last time can you do it this time around -oh you can’t well ok i’m having second thoughts about going anyway i covered the tab last week can you cover it this week -if you can’t that that’s fine maybe we should find something else to do can you cover a game of pool since last time we had lunch dinner at my house do you want to do it at your house this time -well if we can’t pin down a host we might need to cancel the get-together i can host once in a while but not all the time suggest that cr try turning the tables on his her friend relative since there have been plenty of times when cr helped them out suggest that cr test them and see if they’ll return the favor suggest that cr try mooching off of them suggest that cr forget his her wallet ask the friend relative to loan him her money borrow their clothes and see what happens

Materials: Pen paper

Categories: Sage, Topic, Emotional Psychological, Financial, Personal, Social

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References: how to deal with a mooching friend by web contributors 2011 available at www wikihow com

Keywords: Moochers taken advantage of financial dependence mooching friendships relationships relatives family

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Try: Suggest that cr talk to other eelatives or mutual friends about the moocher’s behavior in as diplomatic a way as possible it it’s best if cr and others involved can present a united front for example cr could say joe joe’s a really nice guy and he he’s a lot of fun to hang out with but i’ve noticed he really doesn’t pitch in whenever we go out as a group and i’m worried that it will put a strain on our friendship it would be great if we could do something about it so we don’t have to have problems encourage cr to be persistent it takes time to change a behavior so cr will have to be firm in modifying his her response to the mooching friend relative encourage cr to be clear that he she likes the person person’s company and personality but do not like a particular behavior if the friend relative asks to borrow money suggest that cr say something like i don’t have any money on me or to avoid a possible fib i don’t have enough money to loan suggest that cr break off his her friendship

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Categories: Sage, Topic, Emotional Psychological, Financial, Personal, Social

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References: how to deal with a mooching friend by web contributors 2011 available at www wikihow com

Keywords: Moochers taken advantage of financial dependence mooching friendships relationships relatives family

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Try: Try to find a good senior center in cr’s community write down your p

Materials: Paper pen phone book or internet

Categories: Sage, Topic, Emotional Psychological, Personal, Social

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References: Like cleanliness types of activities offered etc look in the phone book in the section community centers and write down the contact information for the center s nearest you try contacting your local state agency that helps older adults like the area agency on aging they may be able to recommend a good senior center in cr’s local community try contacting the local jewish community center most of the times these places have a senior center with a lot of cool amenities that cr would enjoy this includes swimming pools a beautifully landscaped garden various kinds of classes and exercise sessions do not worry if cr isn’t jewish they accept all types of people in different religions they are very friendly and always ensure that participants are comfortable try contacting your or cr’s local church for senior center recommendations most churches have a department for this so all you need to do is look for that department and start asking them about senior centers that they can suggest they will likely ask you cr’s preferences such as if he she likes going out exercising etc this way they can refer a nice center that fits cr’s needs you can also try asking the church volunteers for suggestions try asking your friends and or relatives if they know some senior centers that will suit cr check the grapevine you will be surprised that there are a lot of things that you can learn by word of mouth consolidate your list and start contacting each senior center one by one schedule an appointment with the director you will be given a tour so you can personally see and get the feel of the whole place carefully check their amenities equipment furniture and appliances it is important that they are all well maintained and clean do not hesitate to ask the director or manager about the things that concern you references how to find a good senior center by sophia myers no date available at www howtodothings com

Keywords: Senior centers companionship social activities lonely lonliness community resources

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Try: Try to help cr make a sense out of his her apparent depression for example try asking cr these questions have you been separated to your relatives are they living somewhere far are you not getting much physical activities now are you simply bored because you really can’t do the things you used to enjoy suggest that cr consider meeting people at regular intervals for example you could suggest that cr visit a friend on weekends encourage cr to go to his her friend’s house or invite a friend over encourage cr to engage in various activities for example you might suggest that cr play a board game watch a movie or work on a project cr could even spend time just exchanging ideas while sharing good food or enjoying a cup of health drink cr might also enjoy joining a club for people his her age try to help cr find one in his her community suggest that cr get a pet you can take care of a dog or a cat you can also choose any other animal that you like a pet can provide cr company and it can make cr’s leisure time more productive and enjoyable encourage cr to get out of his her house every now and then suggest that cr enjoy a morning or a day in the park walk around and relish the sunlight you could also suggest that cr invite some family relatives and friends for a picnic another good option is spending some time in the mall check out the new arrivals is there any on-going sale event if cr’s budget is tight he she can just go around window-shopping encourage cr to indulge in some physical activities a good exercise can help cr handle his her depression bout well if cr doesn’t have the gadgets at home he she could visit a health club in the community cr may also enjoy dipping into the pool

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Categories: Sage, Topic, Emotional Psychological, Medical Physical, Personal, Social

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References: how to deal with depression in the elderly by katherine watson no date available at www howtodothings com

Keywords: Depression feeling down self pity got the blues grief loss sadness lonely loneliness exercise social activities things to do

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Try: Encourage cr to inform him herself about what to expect suggest that cr talk to ask friends and relatives who have undergone the same surgery or read a lot of materials it will help cr a lot to know what will happen to his her eyes and what he she will need to do for the next few weeks after the surgery discourage cr from comparing his her recovery to other people’s recovery remind cr that every patient and every surgery is different so it will not be very helpful if cr compares his her recovery with other people encourage cr to stick to his her concerns and to his her own recovery remind cr to protect his her eyes well a few days after the surgery wounds caused by the cataract eye surgery need to be healed first before cr’s eyes can be used normally it is very important that youn remind cr to protect his her ecr suggest that cr wear a pair of protective eyeglasses just to make sure nothing and no one can hurt his her eyes during this delicate stage suggest that cr wear protective glasses even while he she is sleeping encourage cr to avoid forcing his her eyes to work normally that means no watching tv no reading no computer or cell phone use or no forced usage of his her eyes until they are fully recovered remind cr to avoid lifting anything heavy because doing so will only pressure the eyes the stitches might be affected as well

Materials: Protective eye glasses protective sunglasses

Categories: Sage, Topic, Emotional Psychological, Medical Physical, Vision, So-So Vision

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References: how to recover from cataract eye surgery by kyle chapman no date available at www howtodothings com

Keywords: Eye surgery vision

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Try: Help cr settle in a comfortable place help him her lie down on a massage bed or a recliner make sure he she is in a relaxed state if he she has some disabilities or handicap partly paralyzed exhausted and the like it is best to have him her lay down on a full regular bed set the proper ambience in the room draw the curtains keep the lights at moderate brightness and take note of the cleanliness and orderliness of the room place the massage items you’ll need just beside you so you do not have to get up or reach out for them during the massages session you might want to play a soft classical music to enhance the mood for relaxation use lotion or oil for moisture and lubrication it is important to have some lubrication so you can easily slide your hands on cr’s skin place just a pea size of lotion or two drops of oil on your palm and apply first on cr’s hands hand massage includes the arms and the shoulder but make sure you start with the hands then work your way up avoid using too much lotion as your hands will keep sliding off cr’s arm due to over lubrication some friction is necessary too gently massage and knead cr’s hand use both of your hands at this point stretch pull and bend the fingers but do not put too much pressure also avoid bending and clicking the knuckles as it can cause pain and discomfort always look at cr’s face and watch his her expression if you see him her grimacing or wincing in pain lessen the pressure on his her hand slide your hand upward and toward cr’s shoulder as you do this apply more pressure as you go higher towards the direction of his her heart the technique is for you to put more pressure as you go higher when sliding your hand down again lessen the pressure to a point that your hand is just lightly touching cr’s skin make repeated massage strokes on each hand for about ten or twelve times twist the carpals or wrists slowly both ways work at the bottom of the wrists with your two thumbs engage in a pleasant conversation with cr if he she is awake and you sense he she wants to strike up a talk go ahead and talk to him her however you should engage only in easy talk

Materials: Relaxing music lotion or massage oil

Categories: Sage, Topic, Emotional Psychological, Medical Physical, Sexuality Intimacy

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References: how to massage a senior senior’s hands by olivia cooper no date available at www howtodothings com

Keywords: Hand massage body massage headache stomach ache pain management comforting touch

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Try: Suggest that cr take a deep breath throughout the day when cr is feeling overwhelmed suggest that cr take a step back take a moment and take a deep breath breathing properly and slowing down his her intake and exhalation of oxygen does wonders for the heart rate and clearing the mind encourage cr to do something he she loves suggest that cr indulge in his her creative juices and take up a hobby or a recreational sport that makes him her happy knitting painting sewing tinkering with his her car or playing football are all great ways to unwind encourage cr to spend time with his her family suggest that cr s take time to enjoy them spend a weekend with them watch his her grandson’s baseball game or simply hold his her husband wife at the end of the long day this will help cr put his her life and all his her stress in perspective suggest that cr turn off the tv watching tv or playing the computer can be quite stressful how can cr relax seeing so much violence and bad news suggest that cr turn it off and enjoy the quiet or some conversation with his her spouse cr might also try reading a book instead suggest that cr set a deadline during the day that he she will turn off his her cell phone and wait to return calls and answer messages till the next morning suggest that cr get in touch with nature remind cr that mother nature knows best so he she should take the time to enjoy her beauty encourage cr to breathe that fresh air enjoy the scenery work in his her garden and literally smell the roses suggest that cr exercise encourage cr to get moving and watch his her stress disappear exercise releases endorphins it also has a protective health factor for the body increasing cr’s immunity and making him her stronger and more focused to handle stressful situations remind cr to get some sleep if cr is getting less than eight hours of sleep he she will be more irritable and less sharp suggest that cr go to bed early so he she can relax and unwind suggest that cr help someone else if cr is overwhelmed ask for help knowing he she doesn’t have to handle things by him herself and distributing the workload can greatly diminish cr’s stress levels

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Categories: Sage, Topic, Emotional Psychological, Medical Physical

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References: how to relax and destress by xeres griffin no date available at www howtodothings com

Keywords: Stress stressful relax relaxing relaxation

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Try: Suggest that cr try using a stress box a stress box is some sort of cr’s own pandora’s box in that cr places all the bad things that happen to him her in there then he she opens the box to release all that stress in the hopes of letting it all go suggest that cr pick a time of day to do this if cr havsa busy day ahead suggest that the best time to deal with a stress box is at the end of the day when he she is in bed just between downtime and sleeping this is also sometimes called cr’s me time suggest that cr take the cutup pieces of pad paper and pen to bed get comfortable between his her pillows and separately write down the events of the day which caused him her the least up to the most level of stress cr doesn’t have to be detailed that’s stressful suggest that cr just allow his her thoughts to flow freely even shorthand writing is alright the most important thing for cr to remember is that he she is releasing his her pent-up stress by writing about it suggest that cr make a resolution to deal with each stressful situation suggest that he she lleave a space opposite each of his her stressors on which he she is to write down how he she plans on solving the stressors for example a colleague who takes her problems with her to work and bites people’s heads off including cr’s perhaps the solution would be for cr to avoid speaking to her when it’s not about work or just zoning out when she starts to vent another example would be if cr encounters heavy traffic heading to work the resolution would be for cr to leave his her house earlier to avoid getting caught in it remind cr that he she has the spiritual power and grace to respond to things he she cannot control remind cr that for every stressor there’s something positive cr can do in return after cr is done writing his her thoughts on pieces of paper cr should place these inside the stress box while in this process suggest that cr repeat a mantra telling him herself that he she is releasing his her stresses for the day and that these have no power over him her cr can also inhale and exhale deeply while performing this exercise suggest that cr go to sleep afterward the next evening suggest that cr go back to yhis herstress box the goal here is to sort out the pieces of paper and see which one cr was able to resolve at the beginning of this new day the more cr was able to resolve based on his her solutions the lesser the stress cr has to deal with suggest that cr sort crumple and throw out the ones that have been resolved then when cr is done with the sorting begin the process again by writing down new stressors that came up during the day hopefully there would be nothing new to write down

Materials: Empty shoe box cut up pieces of paper pen

Categories: Sage, Topic, Emotional Psychological, Medical Physical, Personal

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References: how to relieve stress with a stress box by zaire scott no date available at www howtodothings com

Keywords: Stress anxiety anxious worried worries conflicts problem solving

*This information is listed as a Tip and is not explicitly medically licensed